You’ve prepared, you’ve listened to what others have to say and you’ve opened your mind to new ideas. Now it’s time to make your argument. You need to become an advocate for your point of view. But sometimes speaking up can be hard.
In his TED Talk , Adam Galinsky AG Adam Galinsky talks about the double bind, in a position where people are at risk of going unnoticed because they don’t speak up or getting rejected if they do. There are methods that can be used to build confidence To speak up:
- Prepare: Write down some notes to reduce the pressure of speaking up in the moment.
- Practice: Train yourself to speak up by doing it in lower risk environments, also test and refine your arguments with a safe audience in advance (dry-run).
- Passion: Be clear about why the issue is important and why you think your position is relevant to the discussion. Build an argument that you believe in and can communicate powerfully.
- Fake it : Even if you don’t feel confident speaking up, act as if you are. If you act out an emotion, you can begin to feel it.
- Perspective taking : Learn to advocate for yourself by taking a step back to look at the situation without being too self-focused (look at the problem like a fly on the wall).
Speaking up won’t guarantee that you can change someone’s mind. You may need to agree to disagree. But if you tap into the tools of persuasion (up next) you can increase the likelihood that you are able to influence the people you are disagreeing with.